Technology to Serve Up Virtual Family Dinners

...for Elderly Who Cannot Travel to Be With Family

CHICAGO (AP) -- Harvey Bumpus doesn't like to eat alone.

But his wife died more than a year ago and his family is scattered across the country. Most nights, he heats up a simple meal of oatmeal or hot dogs and eats alone.

"I don't have much choice," said the 82-year-old retired correctional officer who looks forward to Christmas as one of the few days each year when he gathers with his family.

But when the planes, trains and automobiles that brought everyone together take his family away -- he, like millions of other elderly people, will be alone again.

Now, the technology consulting company Accenture is developing a system called "The Virtual Family Dinner" that would allow families to get together -- virtually -- as often as they'd like.

The concept is simple. An elderly woman in, say, California, makes herself dinner. When she gets ready to sit down and eat, the system detects it and alerts her son in Chicago. The son then goes to his kitchen, where a small camera and microphone capture what he is doing. Speakers and a screen -- as big as a television or as small as a picture frame -- allow him to hear and see his mother, who has a similar setup.

"We are trying to really bring back the kind of family interactions we used to take for granted," said Dadong Wan, a senior researcher in Accenture Ltd.'s Chicago labs.

Experts say such interactions could address a growing problem: elderly people who eat alone often don't eat enough or eat the wrong kinds of food. It can trigger a host of physical and mental problems that eventually can become life-threatening.

"To physically eat with others, to be able to do that, there are not only social benefits, but health benefits," said Dr. Julie Locher, assistant professor of medicine at the University of Alabama-Birmingham, who specializes in eating issues among older people.

Locher, who suspects virtual meals could forestall hospitalization or placement in nursing homes, was so intrigued with Accenture's project she plans to study it.

When a prototype becomes available, possibly in about two years, it likely will cost $500 to $1,000 per household, Wan said.

Senior Accenture manager Peter Glaser said he hopes insurance companies and government agencies help pay for the system, much as they do for home health care workers, once they see its benefits.

But it must be easy to operate to attract people like Bumpus, who doesn't own a computer and may be intimidated by technology, Glaser said. Although video conferencing with a PC and webcam is widely used today, it requires technical know-how.

In Accenture's lab, projectors are mounted on the ceilings of two mock kitchens -- Wan is in one and Glaser is down the hall in the other. In each, activities taking place in the other room are projected onto a large window, allowing the men to watch each other; microphones allow them to carry on a conversation.

In homes, cameras and microphones could be placed on top of a counter or TV set or built into "smart picture frames that capture what is going on in one kitchen and display it in the other," Wan said. The screens can show just the person or the entire room, depending how the cameras are set up.

The system could incorporate computers, television sets and broadband already in many homes, so customers could have the system installed much the same as they do cable television, Glaser said.

Wan said the Virtual Family Dinner goes further than today's video conferencing.

For example, when an elderly person puts a meal on the table, the system's software automatically finds family members who are similarly wired and determines who might be available.

That could be done in any number of ways, including determining whether a networked family member is watching television. It could then send a message that would be displayed on the TV.

"It might tell you 'Mom is on channel 456,'" said Glaser. The relative could then click to that channel.

Other companies are conducting research into remote monitoring of the elderly, but no one is focusing on daily casual dining, Glaser said.

Such a window into the lives of elderly loved ones is an exciting prospect for Dr. Cai Glushak, a Chicago physician who is the caregiver for his parents in New York. Glushak is medical director for AXA Assistance, which has a program in which elderly patients are monitored by the company. What makes Accenture's work so compelling, he said, is that it extends to him as a son the same kind of access that AXA's program allows medical professionals.

"I feel very limited by only being able to talk on the phone most of the time," said Glushak, one of an estimated 34 million Americans caring for a person age 50 or older.

"To get a look at them would give you a whole new understanding of what is going on," he said, noting it would be helpful to know everything from how thin they look to whether they're combing their hair or wearing clean clothes.

"You could also see their surroundings, (whether) they're ordered or disheveled," he said.

But some people, like Lucia West-Jones, executive director of the Northeastern Illinois Area Agency on Aging, wonder whether the ability to gather such information would raise privacy concerns among the elderly.

Some seniors might steer clear of anything that allows others to gather information that could be used to take away independence.

"This would really have to be a tool older people felt complete control over and when they turn it off, it is off," West-Jones said.

Arthur Baker, a 62-year-old disabled veteran who lives in Chicago, had the same thought.

"If it's like Big Brother or something, that's always going to be a concern," he said.

Still, Baker said he'd welcome anything that would help him connect to his son and five grandchildren in Atlanta, whom he rarely sees.

So would Bumpus.

"To reach out and almost touch each other, that sounds really good to me," he said.

Rufus is the Man....

Rufus Wainwright performed this past week at Carnegie Hall for a Christmas performance with his family in their annual concert. Listen to him sing, "O Holy Night" in French.

95% of Americans have had ...

... premarital sex. According to a study just released, 38,000 men and women were interviewed from 1982, 1988, 1995, and 2002. Commenting on the study, researchers explain that even in past generations, men and women were having sex before marriage. The study's author, Lawrence Finer said,

"The data clearly show that the majority of older teens and adults have already had sex before marriage, which calls into question the federal government's funding of abstinence-only until-marriage programs for 12- to 29-year-olds."

Under the Bush administration, such programs have received hundreds of millions of dollars in federal funding. "It would be more effective," Finer said, "to provide young people with the skills and information they need to be safe once they become sexually active -- which nearly everyone eventually will."

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You've read my rants about the ineffectiveness of abstinence-only education and funding especially as this relates to HIV/AIDS awareness. If kids are going to have sex, and we can certainly encourage them not to, if they are going to do it anyway, we need to pull our heads out of the sand and stop pretending that abstinence-only education is the only appropriate model to combat the spread of HIV and other STDs.

And now we know that even heterosexuals are having as much sex as they think gay people are having. Let's stop pretending already, offer two viable solutions, and hopefully such a measure will slow the spread of HIV before it kills off half the planet's population. To do otherwise (esp given the recent statistics that show people don't a) adhere to any faith-based abstinence program, b) adhere to non faith-based abstinence programs, or c) continue to have lots and lots and lots of premarital sex) is more than irresponsible, it borders on manslaughter.

Go here to read about the study.

Christmas Eve On A Sunday

For preachers everywhere, we have a unique opportunity this year. Christmas Eve falls on a Sunday. This means that we will have both a morning service and an evening candle light service. If you're from a faith tradition that normally has Sunday services in the morning and evening, then this day is a bit different (you may have one LESS service during Christmas week).

As we are all preparing our lessons for the morning service that is also Christmas Eve, I found a great resource over on the History Channel's website. If you need Christmas history fodder, go here. You will find histories, time lines, and even videos.

New Life on a Witch Hunt

The church Ted Haggard used to pastor has asked its members to "blow the whistle" on others who have been guilty of sexual indiscretions and other misdeeds. Asking such a thing makes one wonder exactly which sins will outweigh the other ones.

I wonder if they'll go after the gossipers? Or those who lie on their income taxes? Or those who tell "white lies" to make others feel better?

Such a pursuit makes me think of the conversation Jesus had with the religious leaders who were about to stone a woman caught in adultery when Jesus said to them, "Let him who is without sin, cast the first stone." Everyone put down their rocks and walked away.

You'd think a church like New Life would know better. It is unfortunate that they do not.

Oh the mess they are going to create for themselves all in the name of purity and righteousness. You see, everyone who names someone will be thinking that their sins are not anywhere near as bad as the one they are ratting out. It's like what George Carlin says, "Everyone who goes faster than you do on the highway is crazy; and anyone who goes slower than you is an idiot."

The subjectivity of sin: now THERE is something to really preach about.

Go here to read the story.

$1.65 Billion?!?!

Google has acquired youtube.com for $1.65 Billion in stocks. That is an insane amount of money for a website that looks like the grandson of America's Funniest Home Videos. Sure, I love youtube.com and love checking out episodes of The Venture Brothers with Brock Samson.

But that is a whooooooooooooooooooooole lot of money, right? I mean, is the Dot Com era beginning again?

On a side note, reddit.com is offline. Some folks are thinking that since they were purchased by CondeNast last month, there downtime might be on purpose. These same folks are even thinking that digg.com needs to start getting nervous.

I wonder if Sen. John McCain has anything to do with this? (Okay, so I am just being sacrastic and semi-witty)

The Most Dangerous Toys of All Time

This blog post is funny- although a little scary too. It is actually rather shocking the kinds of "toys" we've unleashed on children-- some of them are so dangerous, one has to wonder "What the heck were we/they thinking?!"

Here is the introduction to the post:

Last month, Target recalled 10 of its Kool Toyz-brand play sets, citing hazards like "lead paint," "sharp points," and "puncture wound potential." The toys, which included plastic aircraft carriers, dinosaurs, and tanks, all appeared harmless enough. But according to the killjoys at the Consumer Product Safety Commission, children—at least those prone to eating plastic objects as big as their head—were at serious risk. A week later, Mattel recalled 4.4 million Polly Pocket dolls and accessories because kids were swallowing the toy's magnets. The Associated Press reported, "If more than one magnet is swallowed, they can attach to each other and cause intestinal perforation, infection or blockage." Three children required surgery.

In the last year alone, some eight million units of toys were recalled in the U.S., according to W.A.T.C.H., a toy-safety advocacy group. But Kool Toys and Polly Pockets are kids' stuff compared to the hazardous baubles of yesteryear. In the spirit of the holidays, Radar presents the most dangerous toys of all time, those treasured playthings that drew blood, chewed digits, took out eyes, and, in one case, actually irradiated. To keep things interesting, we excluded BB guns, slingshots, throwing stars, and anything else actually intended to inflict harm. Below, our toy box from hell.

1. Lawn Darts

Removable parts? Suffocation risk? Lead paint? Pussy hazards compared to the granddaddy of them all. Lawn Darts, or "Jarts," as they were marketed, would never fly in our current ultra-paranoid, safety-helmeted, Dr. Phil toy culture. Lawn darts were massive weighted spears. You threw them. They stuck where they landed. If they happened to land in your skull, well, then you should have moved. During their brief (and generally awesome) reign in 1980s suburbia, Jarts racked up 6,700 injuries and four deaths.

Read the rest of the list here.

Using Fear to Court Votes

I just read a post that Sen. John McCain is introducing legislation to control blogs and the commentors on each site. Saying that comments to some blogs may cause children to be victimized (although offering no proof that has ever happened), he is using fear to justify censorship.

You know, ever since I read in the news that McCain was courting the Religious Right through Jerry Falwell, I've lost some respect for the man. Especially when there was a time when McCain had 'no time' for them and called people like Falwell 'agents of intolerance'. But now that he's considered a presidential contender, he goes and kisses up to hardliners to earn their endorsement and hopefully the votes of their constituents.

How does limiting blogs continue my dislike for the man? By simply using the same techniques those on the Religious Right use to justify their intolerance--by employing the strategy of scapegoating. Blame the blogs and the hearer immediately thinks of myspace.com or some internet porn site and suddenly everyone without a brain can say, "Yeah, if we get rid of blogs, we'll get rid of evil."

And yet, blogs have become quite something else entirely in the world of journalism, free speech, and accountability. Get rid of or limit their influence, and you can go back to the same control of information that existed before the blogging revolution. With all the major networks owned by a few big corporations or persons, I'll bet they may be lining McCain's pocket with campaign funds in order to push legislation like this through. Perhaps this is why he's been spending so much time reaching out to such big business.

Go here to read the post. There are links at the site that'll let you read further into the legislation.

You might be a redneck if...

...you'd wear this shirt.

Simply Amazing!

I have discovered a dictionary entry on Wikipedia chronicling the Back to the Future movies' confusing timelines. In the post, it'll explain everything and how they relate to one another. You'll see graphs, read interesting A+B=C's and then, follow the timeline as if it were a story board back through the movies.

Be wary, it's a long read and it's an interesting one!

Blaming Soy

Just when you thought someone couldn't say something any crazier, along comes a post that'll do just that. According to WorldNetDaily, it has now been determined that soy and soy-related foods turn people into homosexuals. And given the rise in soy-related products given to babies, the author explains,

"Soy is feminizing, and commonly leads to a decrease in the size of the penis, sexual confusion and homosexuality. That's why most of the medical (not socio-spiritual) blame for today's rise in homosexuality must fall upon the rise in soy formula and other soy products. (Most babies are bottle-fed during some part of their infancy, and one-fourth of them are getting soy milk!) Homosexuals often argue that their homosexuality is inborn because "I can't remember a time when I wasn't homosexual." No, homosexuality is always deviant. But now many of them can truthfully say that they can't remember a time when excess estrogen wasn't influencing them."

I usually worry when someone uses the word 'research shows' without actually showing where the research is coming from. By not explaining where the research is from (and thereby opening it up to scrutiny) I am tempted to think this post is homophobia guised in "psychobabble" meant to scare people with the notion, "You might be responsible for turning your son or daughter gay."

I suppose stories like this are popular enough to get 'hit to your site' but they sure do make a lot of us gay folk feel like we're being targeted as the symptom of all the world's problems.

You can read the whole story here.

Light to Unite

Go here to help raise money for the fight against AIDS. Bristol-Myers is donating one dollar for every click. You simply click your mouse on the match that lights the candle. It's a great way to help researchers and agencies devoted to eradicating AIDS.

Very Interesting Podcast

In my previous post, I mentioned to you about a very unknown evangelical pastor, Rev. Paul Barnes, who was outed and had to resign his pastorate when his homosexuality became known.

In following some links about this situation, I came across a podcast in which he addresses Ted Haggard's situation last month, before his own sexual orientation was revealed. And what he says, is a very kind and honest thing as well as very foretelling of his own situation.

My heart goes out to this guy.

While everything he says isn't 100% spot on, it is, in the very least, extremely gracious. And you can hear him pouring out his heart. Go here to listen to this. You'll be glad you did.

[Update: It seems the podcast has been removed from his website; so you cannot listen to it anymore. But you can go here to a story by the Denver Post who did hear it and wrote an article about it.]

Another Colorado Minister Resigns

Another pastor of a megachurch in Colorado just resigned his position as senior pastor following an outing from an anonymous source.

I am copying and pasting this posting from 365gay.com.

(Denver, Colorado) The senior pastor of a second Colorado megachurch has resigned following a phone call to the church outing him.

The Rev. Paul Barnes of Grace Chapel in South Denver announced in a video taped message to his congregation Sunday that he was stepping down.

"I have struggled with homosexuality since I was a 5-year-old boy," Barnes said in the video according to the Denver Post which was allowed to view the tape.

".. I can't tell you the number of nights I have cried myself to sleep, begging God to take this away."

In the video Barnes is seen sitting with his wife.

The church's associate pastor, Dave Palmer, told the Post that the church got an anonymous call last week from a person who said he had overheard a conversation in which someone mentioned "blowing the whistle" on evangelical preachers engaged in homosexuality, including Barnes.

Barnes founded Grace Chapel in his basement 28 years ago and saw it grow to be one of the biggest churches in the state.

His resignation comes a month after Colorado Springs pastor Ted Haggard was outed by a former male prostitute. (story)

Barnes preached that homosexuality is a sin, but unlike Haggard neither he nor his church took a stand on a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage that was approved by voters last month.

In the video Barnes said he became a Christian at age 17 and felt it would help him give up homosexuality, but the feelings never went away, he said.

Still, he said he cannot accept that a person is "born that way," adding that he believes sexuality is influenced by childhood experiences.

Barnes said in the video that he has been in counseling three times but never found anyone he could talk to.

His wife also appeared in the half-hour video the Post reported, saying that she didn't know about her husband's struggles until he confided in her last week. The couple has two daughters in their 20s.

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You can also read a more detailed account of this story by going here, to an article published by the Denver Post.

Harry for the Holidays

I love Harry Connick, Jr. He is both funny (remember him of Will and Grace?) as well as a fun big band jazz singer. This year he has released an update to his 2003 cd Harry for the Holidays, a compilation of Christmas tunes sung with his jazzy interpretation. In this re-release, he has included a DVD with his cd.

I am listening to it now as I putter at work. It is one fun musical collection. If you would like to add a cd of fun Christmas music, let me recommend this to you. If you like jazz, you'll love it!

Now this is just plain stupid

Here is the title of the news article: "Four-year-old suspended for hugging teacher's aid"

Go here to be both amazed and ticked off at what some people will do just to make a point.

A 32 Inch LCD TV for $499?!

I tell you, sometimes a price comes along for a tv that just makes you shake. This LCD tv is just such a thing. I was in BestBuy the other day and found that their 32" LCDs start around $1200!

You know, sometimes you have to be careful with some of the online deals. Many that I have seen, when the LCD tv is so cheap is because they don't come with a tuner or their response time is soooo slow. And yet, this one seems to have it all.

Surely this deal is too good to be true. But have a looksee, maybe its a real deal.

Snowmen

Someone actually did in real life what those Calvin and Hobbes did in the comic strip. Pretty funny, right? I found these pics here.

Smart Fish?

I remember as a kid always thinking that of all the animals or fish in the world, fish had to be the dumbest. I don't know if I thought this because it helped me justify my family's extensive fishing, catching, and ultimately eating or if I was pondering something significant.

As I grew older, I found myself thinking that since God put humans on the earth to eat the animals and fish--they mustn't be too bright or smart. Afterall, they are people food.

But as I've grown older, I find myself at odds with the thinking of my youth as I discover that animals and fish often surprise me in their brilliance. And, when a new discovery comes along such as the apes who use various tools or this story about different species of fish hunting together, the thought confronts my personal theology in a way that makes me rethink human domination. I mean, when I read about those fish that were caught of the Korean waters that looked like human faces, I found myself saying, "Dang, this is freaky!" What I find myself thinking more and more, is that we humans may not be here to just eat whatever we want, but rather it might be something more. And as a Christian, that something more seems to confront traditional thinking about the role of humans on this earth.

As a Christian, I also end up wondering about the sacredness of all life. Does this mean I should become a vegetarian? I dunno. I think on these things and find myself asking whether or not I am being responsible when it comes to dining on the creatures of the earth. If all life is sacred, then does eating that life affect its and my own sacredness? The native Americans honored the lives of the buffalo and other animals when they ate them or used their skins for clothing or shelter. If I am going to honor life, should I be more like the native Americans? Or, does it matter at all?

A while back I watched a YouTube video about a preacher explaining that all animals do not have souls--only humans do. Such a thinking then would surely justify our abuse of the animals we raise and consume. Afterall, if they did have a soul, would we be guilty of murder? Or, at least, in dishonoring the sacredness of the relationship of animal to human?

I don't have an answer--but at least writing about it, I feel less like a hypocrite. I mean, tonight I ate a casserole of shrimp and wild rice. Still, pondering my relationship with the wild is something I've put off for too long. I think I will start by spending some time learning how people of various tribes and nations have interpreted life and its holiness.

A Catchy Tune

My friend caught in the middle has a new feature on his blog called Evoca. The feature allows you to make podcasts over the phone that then get sent electronically and can be attached to blogs and whatnot for others to hear.

I am testing this feature on this blog to see how it works and looks. My test is a catchy tune from an old childhood song.

Please, no comments on my singing. While I enjoy myself, I have discovered many folks quietly ask me to blend in with others. And we all know what THAT means, right? Either I am too loud, too bad, or a little bit of both.

Animator vs. Animation

This is simply hilarious!

Adding Color to the early Century

Daily Kos has a wonderful post composed of color pictures in scenes we generally remember as black and white. Adding the color changes the images a bit and helps a person think that while some things have changed dramatically, many people have remained the same.

It is a wonderful walk of nostalgia for a time before our own. Have a looksee.

A Can of Silly String?

Remember this gooey stuff that you'd spray while imitating that it's coming out of your nose? I do and had a lot of laughs with it. Today, however, it is being used by soldiers in Iraq to help detect explosive trip wires. Soldiers spray them into a house as they go door to door sweeping neighborhoods. If the stuff falls to the ground, their are no trip wires. If it lands on something, it's too light to trip the wires and lets the soldiers know the place is booby-trapped.

A mother of a soldier is collecting cans of the stuff to send to other soldiers.

You can go read the whole story here.

10 Verses Never Preached On

I found this over at churchhopping.com. It is a list of verses that you probably haven't ever read either. It sure makes for an interesting conversation. What is also almost as good a read are the replies to this post. Some of the posters are atheists and others are disgruntled Christians (and probably young) both men and women.

I am thinking that their responses to these verses isn't so far out of whack--esp since those who adamantly proclaim the Bible as truth in every word and detail rather than a book of how men and women have interpreted their faith and tradition. The former needs answers to these odd verses, the latter understands that people do crazy things in the name of God and not all of it is good (or even godly).

Have a looksee and see how you might answer a 12th grader who is looking to you to explain the texts.

Communicating with the Un-raptured

I think this site may be satire because it's so funny. It might be sacrilegious depending on whether you believe in the rapture or not. In the event you believe in the rapture, there is a service that'll deliver messages to those "left behind" because those who operate the site are Atheists.

That's kind of funny, right?

Go here to see the site.

An Easy Way to Save a Lot of Money

I live in a church parsonage which affords me two things: I don't have to pay rent or electric/heating bills. Still, I am careful how I use my electricity and am careful to keep the thermostat set at a reasonable temperature (as opposed to actually staying warm or cool). Still, I am comfortable and I think that's just groovy.

I ran across this article about easy ways average consumers can save a bundle off their electric bills. And, one of the ways is so easy that its scary. Simply replace your average light bulbs with compact fluorescents. These bulbs fit into standard light sockets but look a little funny. (See picture at left.) Ikea sells the bulbs, 3 to a pack and costs a little over $2. Each bulb is supposed to last 10,000 hours (compared to 1-2,000 hours for regular bulbs). And, installing a surge protector to stop energy leaks even when your appliances/computers are turned off is another help. Finally, caulking your home helps dramatically reduce the heat/cooling needed for any one house.

Go here to read the entire article. It is actually rather surprising.

Funny Satire

Gizmodo has a post about a new coffee table book for all those who end up spending more time than they like flying anywhere and get stuck reading the material provided by the airline. Sure, you read the instructions of what to do in an emergency but then, what's left? On many aircraft, you'll find a SkyMall catalogue filled with fancy gadgets and garden gnomes.

Amazon is featuring a book called SkyMaul that is a fake catalogue filled with hilarious looking gadgets and funny stuff.

[Update: Thanks to Jesse Thorn who sent me this link, you can go here to see more about the catalogue and watch some funny videos about it.]

Confronting Poison

An awful incidence occurred during rush hour on the Toronto subways. A reader tells of the gruesome event as well as responding to an irked subway rider complained about being late after a man committed suicide by jumping under a subway car. You can read about this event and how one man's lack of holiday cheer is so unChristmasy here.

A New Perspective on an Old Problem

Here is an interesting column about the effects of heterosexual pornography. What used to be thought that porn would turn men into savage beasts as well as demeaning all women in the process, the author here says that in the age of the internet where porn is everywhere, today porn turns men off of living, breathing women who don't measure up. To quote the author, "Today, real naked women are just bad porn."

What strikes me with this column, as opposed to the old argument that porn objectifies women is that it makes sense that this thinking would actually cross into all sexual orientations. Porn eventually turns the porn watcher off of real relationships. And that is its greatest threat.

Blaming Violence on Religion

Richard Dawkins' book titled The God Delusion is getting a lot of airplay, both online and on talk shows around the country. Opinion writers in newspapers across the country are debating Dawkins view that God is to blame for all the wars, the killings, and every evil that has ever happened on the earth.

Dinesh D'Souza writing at The Christian Science Monitor disagrees and has a compelling response to Dawkins and everyone else who forgets that people who abuse power also abuse religion to justify their evil ways. And sometimes they even abuse ideologies too.

Go read D'Souza's article. It is well written.

Hate Groups in America

The Southern Poverty Law Center has broken down hate groups in America by each state. Follow the link to the site and then click on your state to see where and what hate groups live in each state. It's interesting and scary all at the same time.

I was fascinated to discover that rednecked hate groups, the ones you'd expect to only find in the south and southwest, are actually everywhere. I mean, look at New Jersey, there are 25 groups in the state where I live. I mean, sure, I can expect to find 40 in Georgia or 50 in Florida, but 25 in my home state or even 10 in Maryland? Fortunately there are a few states that don't have any hate groups; they are Vermont, Rhode Island, and Maine.

Wisdom and a Vulgar Rant

I, of course, won't give you a vulgar rant (my mom reads my blog, you understand) but George Carlin will. You can watch his rant by going here. In it, he tells us who really controls America and he does so in his usual and funny way.

I actually quoted George Carlin yesterday in my Sunday sermon. It wasn't from this particular video but rather from something he wrote about irony that involved a diabetic getting run over by a truck carrying insulin. I tied that concept of irony into a sermon on Christ the King Sunday in which Jesus is killed because Pilate and the Jewish leaders misunderstood Jesus' intentions and his whole Kingdom of God concept that wasn't meant to take over Roman rule but to make life better for everyone. In a word, it's all irony.

What Carlin says in this particular video is a bit ironic in that we who live in America think we are getting what we want when in reality the only way for the system to work as its working is for us to THINK we're getting what we want when in reality, those who control us are getting what they want.

"Ummm... Mom, where's dad?"

(New York City) When Paul Iversen came out almost a decade ago he became estranged from his Brooklyn family, but now, with the holidays coming on and his family advancing in years he felt it was time to try to reconcile with his father.

Iversen knocked on his parents apartment door Tuesday and asked his mother if he could see his father.

The 73 year old woman opened the door, the New York Daily News reports, and told him his father was in the bedroom. There he found the skeletal remains of the father, under the covers in bed, lying in a fetal position.

The son persuaded the elderly woman to call police.

The Daily News reports that the woman told investigators that Frank Iversen, 75, had died of natural causes three years ago. She did not report the death because she wanted to continue collecting his Social Security benefits.

The paper quotes unnamed police sources as saying the woman told investigators that she and her husband had made a pact that if one of them died the other would hide the body to continue collecting the benefits.

Neighbors told the Daily News that they had noticed foul odors coming from the apartment for more than a year but did not think to notify police.

The paper said that Frank Iversen had not been to a doctor for decades. An autopsy will be performed by the medical examiners office to determine an exact cause of death, but that could prove difficult or impossible because of the condition of the body.

Joanne Iversen allowed herself to be checked into Bellevue Hospital for a psychiatric evaluation.

Yahoo's New Talent Show

Yahoo is accepting submissions for homemade videos of both comedy, music, and skits. It's pretty fun to watch. I just watched this video of a guy who made a video about looking for love on the Internet. It's pretty good. Have a looksee.

It Usually Takes Me about a Week or So

Tonight after I finished my dinner and Tapioca pudding and while sipping on my coffee, I found myself thinking about ol' Ted. It's been about 10 days or so now since Ted Haggard was confronted and vilified for his 3-year long affair with a gay hustler and meth substance abuse. At present, you can read blogs about his hypocrisy, listen to a racy song about his demise (see earlier post), as well as read the new entry about him in Wikipedia.

This week, I've read even more blogs about him at The Huffington Post and The Revealer. And you know what? While I am almost as mad as everyone else is, I must admit my anger is subsiding a bit. I am probably more angry at a system that both allowed Haggard to do what he did as long as he 'towed the party line' as much as I am at the religion that continues to denigrate us gay and lesbian folk as the immoral bastards they think we are.

And the more I think about the religion that tied up Haggard and warped his mind, the more I am feeling a bit of pity for him. I guess feeling pity is a bit condecending, and I hate it when others do that with me, so I'll change 'pity' to 'feeling sorry for him.' His life is about to get so ugly that few would or should wish that upon even their harshest critics.

Ted may be going into some sort of reparitive therapy, which fails so often that the APA (as well as the American Assoc. of Pediatrics, the American Counseling Assoc., The American Pyschiatric Assoc., The American Psychologial Association, and The National Assoc. of Social Workers, to name a few) have declared such a practice to be a sham of the highest order. The APA has even gone so far as to actually affirm the worth and health of gay and lesbian parents, children, and other folk. The emotion turmoil and rollercoaster ride that Ted is going to face with his family and himself will be treacherous. He has already lost his job and probably his home too. His wife and kids may end up in some religious therapy session somewhere and, if Mark Driscoll has any say so, Ted's wife may even be put in therapy for causing this whole mess in the first place. (Driscoll wrote a post blaming pastor's wives who let themselves "go" and thereby causing their pastor husbands to look for "it" someplace else).

The evangelically religious spin-doctors and snake-oil salespersons (like NARTH) will be all over him like red ants at an Arizona barbeque. And, try as he might, he'll not find one person to whom he can say, "Will someone please love me as I am instead of on the condition of who you want me to become?"

The more I think about what his life is going to be like, the more embarrassed I feel for continuing to prod and poke him for his scandalous lifestyle (I know, I hate to use 'that word' too but it kind of fits with him, doesn't it?)

I am going to be mad at him for one more night, tonight, and then tomorrow I am going to start praying for him. Is it a sin to wait like that? The Gospel of Mark says, "If your brother sins against you and if he repents, you must forgive him." I guess I would be justified in waiting for his repentance but since he a) didn't particularly sin against me personally.. although he did in a rather metaphysical way that the Scriptures kind of address, and b) I don't want to wait and pray for him after all the crap he's going to go through. If I did, I'd be similarly guilty as the ones who won't help him until after he tells them that he's no longer a homosexual.

Honestly, he needs our prayers. And, of course my prayers may be a bit biased but hopefully I can say them in a way that honors the situation while not completely ignoring the hope that when God helps him, Ted will find a way out of his mess.

Heck, I'll start tonight. But I'll leave that other post up (minus the direct link to the catchy song) as a way of compromising my intentions.

How Open-Minded Are You?

You Are 60% Open Minded

You are a very open minded person, but you're also well grounded. Tolerant and flexible, you appreciate most lifestyles and viewpoints. But you also know where you stand firm, and you can draw that line. You're open to considering every possibility - but in the end, you stand true to yourself.

How Open Minded Are You?

A Childhood Favorite

Puff the magic dragon by Schizos gott och blandat

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Catchy Tune

I discovered a catchy tune from a post over at Beppepodcast who linked it to Paul Hipp's column over at The Huggington Post. It is a a song written about Ted Haggard that you might expect to hear on a weekday morning radio show. I should warn my more faint of heart readers (yes, Mom, that includes you) that you may want to skip this post. (smile!)

*Update: See new post about this song and my reason for deleting the link but not this post.

Down Memory Lane

Beliefnet.com has a column on Fallen Religious Leaders that reads almost like a "where are they now?" VH1 special.

As I was scrolling through their list of fallen leaders to include not only the recently shamed Ted Haggard, but also Jim Bakker and Jimmy Swaggart, I found myself thinking, "Well, I do declare...!" when I read about Robert Tilton. If you lived anywhere in Oklahoma or Texas in the 1990s, you were familiar with this incredibly savvy tele-evangelist. Tilton was once a powerhouse of religious tele-evangelism and made roughly$80 million a year until a scandal blew up that exposed him for a charlatan.

I thought he'd disappeared but it looks like he's back and doing this thing in Florida. On this website, you'll see some pictures including the one in this post that explains Tilton's title of Sr. Pastor and "General Overseer." Such a title made me wonder if a 'general overseer' like something akin to a General Do-dad Thing-a-majig?

Go here to see his church website.

Calling All Shop-a-holics!

Black Friday Ads has posted a listing of stores preparing to sell certain items for ridiculously low prices. Go here to see the list, slobber over the deals, and plan your attack.

*Update: This posting has changed somewhat after BestBuy threatened a lawsuit with Black Friday Ads over their posting of the deals and bargains at BestBuy. Black Friday Ads removed their listing. But to be fair, they had listed the following items that BestBuy will be selling: a 5 megapixel camera for $79, an eMachine computer with 15" LCD monitor and printer for $189, and an HP notebook computer for $379. There are even more and crazier deals listed.

HP Ink Costs More Than Human Blood

Is this crazy, or what? I found this post over at Gizmodo in which someone graphed out the cost of an ink cartridge from Hewlett-Packard. I am amazed and surprised to realize how much I am spending on ink. This is one more justification to actually find an affordable black and white laser printer. So far, this one is the one I am most interested in at the moment.

Interesting Column

Brian Kinchen, a sports commentator for ESPN, was fired for misusing a slang phrase. The phrase in question is one heard practically everywhere, in one form or another: "That's kind of gay." Folks on blogs and on the air have commented about whether or not its okay to say such a thing. Straight folks tend not to get it as readily as gay folks.

Perhaps some folks might better understand why using the phrase can be felt as very demeaning. Most gay folks see the correlation used by the user when others liken a situation that is dumb, stupid, unusual, or weird to the word 'gay'. Imagine how a person would respond, if instead of using gay, they used the word 'Jew' or 'Asian' or 'Mexican'.

Still, the commentator didn't sound as if he was being mean when he said it. Admittedly I only read about it but even in print, it sure doesn't sound like he meant to be demeaning. And yet, even accidently, our words can have powerful connotations.

Here is an article from the DesMoines Register that explains what I am getting at.

Super Size Me

This morning, I may be the last person I know to have watched Super Size Me. The movie is about an experiment where one man eats nothing but McDonald's fast food 3 times a day for 30 days. Prior to the start of this experiment, he went to 3 doctors for a physical and remained in contact with them throughout the experiment. At the end, he took a final physical exam. The results are astounding!

Here is the opening clip of the movie.

And now for something completely different...

See other deceiving pics here.

Finally, he admits it!

Haggard admits to having had gay sex.

The striking line in his admission are these words, "There's a part of my life that is so repulsive and dark that I have been warring against it for all of my adult life."

And warring against the rest of us is one of the ways in which he justified his own sexuality. Time and again we see those who wage the greatest fights against all things gay because deep down they have cannot reconcile their own homosexuality. We see it when a kid beats another kid with a baseball bat or ties one to a fence to die. We see it in our politicians and now, once again, in religious leaders.

Just think how much greater the acceptance of gay and lesbians could be if these same kids, politicians, and religious leaders spent their energies reaching out to us with openness, warmth, and acceptance. Perhaps we'd live in a country where all relationships are honored and where men did not spend their time cruising for sex with hustlers. Instead they could date, court, and be encouraged to make their relationships work in the same way politicians and religious leaders care for the relationships of heterosexuals.

The next time we hear from a religious person or anyone else rant against the evils of homosexuality, let us first ask ourselves, "I wonder why he is so concerned about it? Maybe he is warring against something inside himself."

Honestly, with what has happened with Haggard really makes me wonder what Fred Phelps' motivation is against all things gay. Phelps, as you know, heads up the God Hates Fags campaign.

Daaaaaaaaaaaang, that was quick

Haggard's been permenately removed from his pastoral office. An independant investigative board of his New Life Church met and acted swiftly. Here is the story:

The Rev. Ted Haggard agreed to resign as leader of the New Life Church after its independent investigative board recommended removal, saying he was guilty "of sexually immoral conduct."

"We, the Overseer Board of New Life Church, have concluded our deliberations concerning the moral failings of Pastor Ted Haggard," a statement from the church said. "Our investigation and Pastor Haggard's public statements have proven without a doubt that he has committed sexually immoral conduct."

Haggard was "informed of this decision," the statement said, and he "agreed as well that he should be dismissed."

A man describing himself as an escort told news media this week that Haggard, who also has resigned as president of the influential National Asssociation of Evangelicals, had been paying him for sex for three years.

Haggard immediately denied the allegations, but later acknowledged having paid the man for a massage and to provide methamphetamine.

The church's statement said the investigation would continue to determine how extensive Haggard's misconduct was.

The Rev. Ross Parsley will lead the church until a permanent replacement for Haggard is chosen, something that should happen by the end of the year, the statement said. A letter explaining Haggard's removal and an apology from Haggard will be read at Sunday services.

"The language of our church bylaws state that as Overseers we must decide in cases where the Senior Pastor has 'demonstrated immoral conduct' whether we must 'remove the pastor from his position or discipline him in anyway they deem necessary,"' the statement said.

"In consultation with leading evangelical and experts familiar with the type of behavior Pastor Haggard has demonstrated, we have decided that the most positive and productive direction for our church is his dismissal and removal," it continued.

James Groesbeck, a church elder, said he was glad the investigative board acted quickly.

"I'm saddened by what came out, but I think they've done their job," Groesbeck said by telephone. Church members are drawing strength from one another and are caught up in the activity, but that likely will change, he said.

"I think it's going to be really difficult in a week or two," Groesbeck said.

Go here to read the whole story from the Associated Press.

Haggard Update

I just returned from playing an afternoon of pretty good golf. It was chilly to say the least but I shot a decent round. I've played golf only twice this year and this time was by far better than my last.

Upon getting home, I checked the news to discover that ol' Haggard has admitted to getting massages from Mike Jones, the gay hustler, but didn't have sex. He also admitted to purchasing the meth through the hustler just to "see what it was like" but didn't ever actually take it, opting instead to throw it away. It sure sounds like he's nervous--admitting and yet not admitting to things. If it can be proven that he took the meth, I am sure we'll hear a different story out of him.

I guess I was sort of right in my previous post. My guess is that Haggard won't admit to doing anything that cannot be proved. Jones has recorded voicemails to prove Haggard was interested in the meth drug but there is no actually proof he took it. There is proof that he called several times looking for it and the voicemail implication is that he has indeed partaken.

His relationship with Jones remains a guessing game. As time goes on, I am sure we'll read that Haggard did more than received a massage. I mean, if he was just looking for a massage in general, he could have gone to the local mall or to a doctor recommended therapist, right? I mean, pursing a gay hustler to get a massage seems very suspect. And I am not the only one who thinks so. James Dobson, President of Focus on the Family doesn't sound like he is buying any of it either. In his reply about Haggard, he issued this statement,

"All of us at Focus on the Family are heartsick over the allegation, not yet confirmed, that Ted has had a private life with a homosexual for several years. We will await the outcome of this story, but the possibility that an illicit relationship has occurred is alarming to us and to millions of others. Ted has been my close friend and colleague for many years. He has been used mightily to spread the Gospel of Jesus Christ in Colorado Springs and around the world. He will continue to be my friend, even if the worst allegations prove accurate. Nevertheless, sexual sin, whether homosexual or heterosexual, has serious consequences and we are extremely concerned for Ted, his family and his church." (Italics mine)

According to what Dobson says, it sure doesn't sound like he is believing Haggard's story while at the same times waiting to see what can or cannot be proven. Once the dust clears and the evidence is presented, we're sure to read to what extend Dobson and his allies will say and do with Haggard.

And I doubt that we'll have to wait long. I am guessing the revelations will begin to pour out as the days pass.

And all of this just days before the gay marriage vote will happen in Colorado. Hmm.. I wish it'd happened a few weeks ago--to give folks time to think more about the reality that gay folks are everywhere even in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

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Go here to read a transcript of the hustler being interviewed on MSNBC.

Another One Bites the Bullet

This week while sitting in my office preparing for the weekend services, I received an email from a friend that said,"You're not going to believe this!" And he sent me a link to a story about Ted Haggard, pastor of the 14,000 megachurch in Colorado Springs and President of the National Association of Evangelicals, in which a hustler had outed him as both a 'behind everyone's back closeted gay something-or-other' and a meth drug user. Time Magazine also has a story about it.

He had, up until yesterday, denied the accusation. On Wednesday, he said, "I did not have a homosexual relationship with a man in Denver." But then, reading that statement, one wonders if he was being just a bit too exact in his reply. By saying that he did not have a relationship with a man in 'Denver', could he have meant, "at least not in Denver proper, per say." With some evangelicals, one needs to pay close attention to the words they choose.

Admittedly, I responded to my friend that surely it's too soon to tell. Accusations are accusations, I thought, and in this year of political wrangling, surely this was just a ploy. And then, yesterday I read where Haggard had stepped down just moments before his National Association of Evangelicals was to stand together and support him. They decided against it when Haggart resigned. And now, this morning I read where Haggard has now admitted to "some of the allegations" while not specifying which ones. I'd guess he'll say he's a drug user before admitting to having had paid for gay sex with a hustler for over 3 years. The former he can attribute to stress, enter a drug clinic, and come out as a shining example that even ministers can get overwhelmed to the point of a drug addiction. I mean, it worked for Rush Limbaugh, right? And, several ministers I have heard about have indeed developed a drug addiction during their ministry. It is a serious issue that needs serious attention.

The gay sex part though would never be forgiven by his constituents. Especially since Haggard is a well-known anti-gay marriage and anti-gay personna.

Isn't it amazing when a man of the cloth wages war against the very vice that consumes him? If proven true, this will be yet another example when those who protest too much have a good reason to do so--when they do it, you can bet they haven't reconciled themselves with their own faith and homosexual passion.

Old Friends and a Great Time

Last week I attended a conference at one of New York City's most famous churches, The Riverside Church for their Fosdick Convocation. Named after its founding pastor, Henry Emerson Fosdick, the conference features the nations leading preachers, social justice advocates, and a few prophets thrown in for good measure.

And besides the great lectures and meetings, I ran into many colleagues and friends from seminary. I enjoyed sitting with them as we learned together ways in which to make our faith a contemporary presence in modern social and political settings. We also prayed and worshipped together. And we ate together too!

All in all, I had a wonderful week of enrichment, getting reacquainted with old friends, and well as being inspired by the Good News.

I've Been Away

Sorry for the no posts of the last week, I've been away at a conference in NYC. I am back now and ready to put something on here. Unfortunately at this very second, I don't know what that should be. ;)

A Soldier's Lament

After Pat's Birthday

By Kevin Tillman

Editor’s note: Kevin Tillman joined the Army with his brother Pat in 2002, and they served together in Iraq and Afghanistan. Pat was killed in Afghanistan on April 22, 2004. Kevin, who was discharged in 2005, has written a powerful, must-read document.

It is Pat’s birthday on November 6, and elections are the day after. It gets me thinking about a conversation I had with Pat before we joined the military. He spoke about the risks with signing the papers. How once we committed, we were at the mercy of the American leadership and the American people. How we could be thrown in a direction not of our volition. How fighting as a soldier would leave us without a voice… until we got out.

Much has happened since we handed over our voice:

Somehow we were sent to invade a nation because it was a direct threat to the American people, or to the world, or harbored terrorists, or was involved in the September 11 attacks, or received weapons-grade uranium from Niger, or had mobile weapons labs, or WMD, or had a need to be liberated, or we needed to establish a democracy, or stop an insurgency, or stop a civil war we created that can’t be called a civil war even though it is. Something like that.

Somehow our elected leaders were subverting international law and humanity by setting up secret prisons around the world, secretly kidnapping people, secretly holding them indefinitely, secretly not charging them with anything, secretly torturing them. Somehow that overt policy of torture became the fault of a few “bad apples” in the military.

Somehow back at home, support for the soldiers meant having a five-year-old kindergartener scribble a picture with crayons and send it overseas, or slapping stickers on cars, or lobbying Congress for an extra pad in a helmet. It’s interesting that a soldier on his third or fourth tour should care about a drawing from a five-year-old; or a faded sticker on a car as his friends die around him; or an extra pad in a helmet, as if it will protect him when an IED throws his vehicle 50 feet into the air as his body comes apart and his skin melts to the seat.

Somehow the more soldiers that die, the more legitimate the illegal invasion becomes.

Somehow American leadership, whose only credit is lying to its people and illegally invading a nation, has been allowed to steal the courage, virtue and honor of its soldiers on the ground.

Somehow those afraid to fight an illegal invasion decades ago are allowed to send soldiers to die for an illegal invasion they started.

Somehow faking character, virtue and strength is tolerated.

Somehow profiting from tragedy and horror is tolerated.

Somehow the death of tens, if not hundreds, of thousands of people is tolerated.

Somehow subversion of the Bill of Rights and The Constitution is tolerated.

Somehow suspension of Habeas Corpus is supposed to keep this country safe.

Somehow torture is tolerated.

Somehow lying is tolerated.

Somehow reason is being discarded for faith, dogma, and nonsense.

Somehow American leadership managed to create a more dangerous world.

Somehow a narrative is more important than reality.

Somehow America has become a country that projects everything that it is not and condemns everything that it is.

Somehow the most reasonable, trusted and respected country in the world has become one of the most irrational, belligerent, feared, and distrusted countries in the world.

Somehow being politically informed, diligent, and skeptical has been replaced by apathy through active ignorance.

Somehow the same incompetent, narcissistic, virtueless, vacuous, malicious criminals are still in charge of this country.

Somehow this is tolerated.

Somehow nobody is accountable for this.

In a democracy, the policy of the leaders is the policy of the people. So don’t be shocked when our grandkids bury much of this generation as traitors to the nation, to the world and to humanity. Most likely, they will come to know that “somehow” was nurtured by fear, insecurity and indifference, leaving the country vulnerable to unchecked, unchallenged parasites.

Luckily this country is still a democracy. People still have a voice. People still can take action. It can start after Pat’s birthday.

I found this at Truthdig.com. You can read the story and the responses to this story by going here.

Running with Scissors

Here is the trailer to the movie based on Augusten Burrough's book, Running with Scissors. And, it looks great!!

Balancing and Doing What You Gotta Do

I found these pics over at this site and after you see these pics, check others out over there. There are some amazing feats of logistic balance at work here.